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WHO ARE THE BIGS IN THE PROGRAM?
Our Bigs come from diverse backgrounds just like our Littles. They are regular people, just like you. You don’t need any special degrees or job skills. You just have to want to positively impact a young person. Role models come in all shapes and sizes, and you could be a perfect fit.
WHAT IS THE PRE-MATCH PROCESS?
This is what is really unique and great about Big Brothers Big Sisters of the Heart of Georgia. We don’t just select the next child on our list and match them with a Big. Each Big and Little are matched based on compatibility and proximity to each other; but ultimately, Bigs and Littles choose each other. Our program staff, known as Mentoring Relationship Specialists, get to know each Big, parent and child that enrolls in the program. They get to know their interests, hobbies, what they are looking for in a Match, and much more. This is crucial because once a volunteer is accepted into the program, a match support specialist will begin searching for a few Littles that they think would make a good Match. They will then share a profile of a Little that they believe is a great match for you, and from there you ultimately decide if you think they will be the best fit.
In our community-based program, from this point, you will set a date/time to meet your Little and their parents for your first outing with one of our Mentoring Relationship Specialists.
In our other programs including school-based program, a Mentoring Relationship Specialist will meet you at the school or other site to meet your Little for the first time and help facilitate your first visit.
After your match day – the fun begins and you choose your dates and outings based on your program you are involved with.
WHEN CAN I SEE MY LITTLE?
As a Big/Little team, you decide together what you want to do and then your Little gets approval from his or her parent. We recommend that you keep a consistent schedule of outings and get together on a regular basis. We will provide more guidance on this. The outings will also depend on the comfort level of your Little’s parents, your Little, and you.
HOW MUCH MONEY SHOULD I SPEND?
The quality of the time you invest with your Little is more important than the amount of money you spend. That’s why we don’t encourage spending a lot of money on your outings. The goal of the relationship is to help your Little see the world through a different lens so you can inspire your Little to become something they never thought possible. If you are going to spend money, we encourage you to seek out low-cost activities, especially in the beginning. Our monthly match activities are a great way to meet other Bigs and Littles and participate in activities free of charge. As a Big, you may also receive notices for free tickets to cultural and sports activities for you both to enjoy throughout the year.
WHAT ARE SOME GOOD IDEAS FOR OUTINGS WITH MY LITTLE?
Share an activity that gives you something in common to talk about. Go to the library, check out a book and read together. Buy a comic book to read together. Play a board game. Go on a nature walk. Hit a bucket of golf balls at the local driving range. Take a ride in the car with the radio on and talk about the music you like. You want to select activities that give each of you a chance to learn more about one another. For children, playing can be learning. Most important: keep it simple and enjoy yourselves!
CAN I BRING MY SPOUSE, A FRIEND, OR A FAMILY MEMBER ON OUTINGS?
In the beginning it’s most important for you and your Little to get to know each other. This can happen best on a one-to-one basis. However, over time it’s also valuable for your Little to get to know the people who are important to you. Just keep in mind that if you’re spending lots of time with others, your Little may begin to feel jealous or neglected. The main focus is the friendship you develop with your Little.
WHAT KIND OF SUPPORT CAN I EXPECT FROM BIG BROTHERS BIG SISTERS ONCE I GET MATCHED?
Once you are matched with your Little, a Mentoring Relationship Specialist from the agency will be in regular contact with you to provide assistance and give feedback. Any time you are unsure about what to do or how to handle a situation, you will have a Mentoring Relationship Specialist there to help. They’ll help you with ideas for activities, guidance for handling possible difficult situations, and feedback on how you are making a difference.
WHAT IF IT DOESN'T WORK?
We do everything in our power to make a Match that we think will last. However, we realize that sometimes things come up – Bigs or Littles move, situations change, or something doesn’t work out. We will attempt to mediate the situation, but if it doesn’t work out, we will end the Match. If this happens, your Mentoring Relationship Specialist will be there to support you every step of the way and handle it in the best way possible.
WILL I BECOME A REPLACEMENT PARENT?
No, Littles have a parent or guardian in their life already. What they need is a Big to spend quality, one-on-one time with them. Someone to have fun with, someone they can confide in, someone like you!